If we use poor social skills, socialising can be very difficult

If you can see that the way you behave effects the other person’s behaviour you’re making good progress. Very often it’s not just what you look like but the way you behave that influences other people.

If people are staring at you, give them a reassuring response.

Don’t avoid eye contact. Look at them and smile. This shows you’re confident and friendly and puts them at ease.

Use positive body language (e.g. smiling, hand gestures, keeping your head up and nodding) and positive talking skills (e.g. starting conversation), to show people that you’re willing to make the effort.

Know what you want and need and ask for it in a confident way. This isn’t the same as being aggressive. Use good posture and direct eye contact. Being assertive doesn’t mean you’ll get your own way all the time, but the important thing is that you’ve stood up for yourself and shown that you’re in control.

Have the confidence to face situations that you find difficult and then think about them positively afterwards. Focus upon the positive things that you have achieved and don’t allow negative thoughts to take over. Positive thoughts (‘I can do this’), good posture (standing up tall, with your shoulders back), smiling and plenty of eye contact can help you feel more courageous.

Humour can ease an uncomfortable situation. It’s important to be able to laugh at situations. Learning to make a joke or light hearted remark can help you not take things to heart and help others to be comfortable around you.

Stop people focusing on your appearance by asking them a question or changing the subject.

Remember that some people don’t know how to deal with visible differences so give them a chance. Help them by giving them a little information, by reassuring them and making conversation.

Try again means not giving up. If a situation doesn’t run smoothly – try again because these skills require practice. Eventually you’ll learn to master them.